As intelligent as they are I don’t think Senators Durbin and Graham know who they are dealing with in the White House.
Senator Durbin, in my opinion, needs to understand that it simply plays into the hand of malignant narcissists to make a big deal out of every outrageous, destructive thing they say and do. Trump/malignant narcissists generally thrive on these controversies – and so does his base/their enablers. A responsible, interdependent person needs to do what every therapeutic boarding school does in response to someone with Trump’s afflictions: note his position and move on by sticking to the issues – pressing him on the issues. So in my view Senator Durbin should have said in response to Trump’s vulgarity, “Mr. President I don’t think it is humane or consistent with our national ethics and values to call these nations ‘shithole countries.’ Additionally, from many people’s perspectives and in basis of fact it isn’t true that they are ‘shithole countries.’ In any event our immigration policy is tied to our international policy and we have historically been a country that opens its doors to those in need and in my view we have benefitted as a nation from that policy. If you want to change or debate that Mr. President just say so and let’s debate and enact that policy change right now.”
But apparently Senator Durbin never said anything like what I just suggested; rather he went to the press, which is very understandable, but I fear it has caused many people to become depressed as they are helpless in the face of these remarks and it has made the President, yet again, look like a victim and indeed, a truthsayer.
Senator Graham on the other hand is surprised to find that the man Trump he was talking to a few days ago about an immigration deal has now reversed himself entirely on that policy discussion. Apparently Senator Graham is unaware of malignant narcissists’ Jekyll and Hyde personality: warm and understanding one moment as they let you into their world and then harsh and cruel at the next – leaving you out in the cold – and in my opinion malignant narcissists are completely dissociated from their previous, contradictory behavior. This intermittent reinforcement is the absolute best way to control another individual – (we know this from solid scientific research) – and in my opinion it is at the root of abusive relationships. These are very dark personalities indeed, beyond what any normal person can comprehend, and they are disorienting because these afflicted people are very apt to be uniquely sensitive, humane and genteel at times – they know how to connect with your soul. They are unaware of these shifts in their behavior and it becomes a big game they play, ultimately blaming the mess and the confusion they create on everyone else. They are a siren song that you really need to be aware of, as these afflicted individuals use people and getting close to them never comes to a good end. There’s an old saying “lie down with dogs and you get up with fleas” which we all would be wise to heed when it comes to managing the Trump presidency.
