“CMN is a term I am proposing. It is comprised of the psychological defenses projection (blaming others for your own feelings and behaviors), projective identification (internalizing  – or believing – what the CMN is saying about you), dissociation (denying reality), and intermittent reinforcement (alternating between being rewarding and punishing behavior – often informally referred to as Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde personality – it is the most effective way of controlling someone).

These defenses are associated with someone who is “dysregulated.” (Look up Dr. Allan N. Schore for more information about this disorder.)  These defenses operate automatically and out-of-awareness and neurobiologists have proven their existence.


CMNs believe in their reversed reality as much as they believe that a dropped ball will fall to the ground.


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