How to Avoid, Manage, and Resolve Conflicts
1. Recognize that there are different types of conflict that require very different strategies to both manage and solve.
2. Identify the type of conflict you are either facing or believe you may have to face.
3. Be Proactive: Act on the directives outlined in the type of conflict you have identified.
Type Two: Reactive: when difficult times (natural disaster, illness in oneself or one’s family, job loss among other stressors) cause individuals to strike out, to externalize their emotions (Aggressive behavior associated with PTSD related trauma, is included here. At times trauma is implicated in type three.)
Type Three: They are either unilateral or bilateral – what I refer to as “high conflict”: the former is chronic, abusive, polarizing and destructive and is caused by a cataclysmic malignant narcissist, (CMN). CMNs are affect dysregulated* demanding to control others which they do through intermittent reinforcement* and other means of coercive control* described in Type Three Conflicts and by creating chaos. I describe the psychological defenses that create this condition in my ebook. I argue that in a sense CMNs are dissociated* from their cruelty and that their will must prevail over the common good.* I know as an expert witness often charged with identifying these individuals and assessing their risk to family members, that with our current methodology they are very difficult to prove in court. Bilateral of “high conflict:” one party is a CMN and the other party can be affect dysregulated as well, for reasons generally independent of the CMN. Assortative mating* is included here. Child custody disputes are very often a “Type Three” dispute. Type Three in my site provides a general description of a CMN. My Blog provides examples of how CMNs plays into politics and my ebook describes how they play into one’s personal life. An asterisk indicates terms used by distinguished scholars. I give credit to them in my site and in my ebook.